New Couples and the Holidays
When a bride and groom get married, they are suddenly a brand new family, as well as a part of each other’s families. This is a wonderful thing, but it can also take some time to find your way and create new traditions that work for you and your spouse. This can be particularly true around holidays and birthdays.
In-laws have the long-lived reputation as kill-joys in many marriages. Going in aware that some of your in-laws may be a hassle, make it a point to have fun in spite of that. There should be open communication between you and your future spouse about how you want to spend the holidays. Perhaps Thanksgiving with one family, and Christmas with the other. Whatever you decide, be firm with both sets of families and make it fun.
This is the perfect time to get to know each other. Plan a special activity with just the parents if you will be with the other family so they don’t feel like they are losing their child. A quiet “Thanksgiving Eve” dinner is a good idea. That intimate time with a small dinner and a bottle of wine is perfect for getting to know each other and can be a relaxing start to a new tradition. Make sure to keep it simple – perhaps provide carry out, since the preparations can be stressful on the big day.
The holiday season is meant to be enjoyed. Relax! This can be the most wonderful time of the year for you if you just find ways to enjoy it. Don’t stress over the little stuff. Find ways to make it meaningful, and above all remember the real reason for the season.