Wedding Planning A Deux

When you are planning your wedding, remember that it is not a special day for only one person. The bride is usually the center of the wedding focus, but without the groom, there would be no wedding! Instead of just planning the wedding that the bride and her mother want, include the groom, and make it a wonderful day for the both of you. Once you get started, you will find that the groom has more ideas than you expected.

Ask your soon-to-be where he wants to get married. You might be surprised! Find books or go online to find questions that will prompt him to give you thorough answers or to get him thinking. Find creative ways to incorporate his ideas, even if it’s for the reception.

Some men really don’t care, but if you find out their family’s traditions and style for weddings, bring it into your ceremony. Have a meal with his parents (if they are still together) and find out what they did, then afterwards ask your honey if it’s important to do things their way.

The cake is another biggie. Tastes vary widely for what a cake should be, and often, the groom will have something that is not approved. Don’t just stick him with a groom’s cake… let him have one layer of your wedding cake in a different flavor. That will make cake-testing more fun, especially when he knows he can pick his flavor.

The most important thing about planning your wedding is that it isn’t about getting everything one way. You are about to marry two lives together, where you will have to learn to compromise. Having everything go without a hitch is not the important part of your wedding. Focus on your other half and the details will fall into place. It’s the marriage that’s going to last – the wedding is only one day.